So,
I googled Mil Robbins and I found out that she actually wrote a book about this particular problem of mine: "stop saying you are fine." is the title of the book. Okay, first of all, I do not say I am fine, not anymore. I am aware of the huge problem that I am facing that is ruining my entire life, and one that I do not want to ruin my future. However, - despite that the title does not apply - I went on buying the kindle version and dig in.
I have finished two chapters of the first part. There are a lot that I want to say. But I have done the following: I wrote down those sentences that stroke a chord, so to speak. I wonder if it is a total waste of time writing them here as well as my real diary, but I cannot sleep, and maybe writing them down will make them stick some more. So, here we go:
Phrases that stroke a chord: Part one - Chapter I & II:-
- Adapt a powerful mindset and push yourself to take action when you don't feel like it.
- To be powerful, you must make it happen while you worry that you can't.
- You must push yourself to do things you don't want to do, so you can become the person you were meant to be.
- There is nothing stopping you from achieving your goals but you and your dumb-ass excuses.
- My mindset is definitely a chicken, so my mantra is "shut up. I am doing it anyway".
- It is about becoming more powerful in small ways on a daily basis.
- My challenge simply is to stop hitting the snooze button and start; not tomorrow, not next week, not next year. Start taking action now.
- Reclaim control over 5% of your life. But brace yourself, that first 5% is the hardest part.
- Action is the key to everything. An action is a thought brought to life.
- Apply the 5 seconds rule: move from idea to execution in five second, or the idea will melt away.
- It takes real work to make things happen.
- The most powerful ally in the world is yourself.
- When you are afraid, it's easier to convince yourself to do nothing than to deal with the thought of failing again.
- You don't have the life you want because your brain is keeping you from getting it.
- Act as if already you have what you desire: instead of hiding behind fear, manufacture the air of happiness and confidence that you would have if you're in a great relationship.
- In any area of your life that you want to change, adopt this rule: Just do the things you don't want to do. If you only ever did the things you don't want to do, you'd have everything you've ever wanted.
- Push through.
- The key to getting yourself unstuck is to start saying yes to those unexpected impulses that want to take you somewhere new.
- Feeling nervous is not a red flag warning you of danger. Nerves mean you are about to do something new.
- Nothing is changing unless you make it change.
- Pick one small thing you can commit to doing to reverse the direction this is all headed in and do it.
- The longer you wait, the less likely you will act.
- We can fight off sadness and depression much better than we realize.
- The worst is never as bad as you think.
- New things don't feel safe.
To be continued...